Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Here is another attempt at trying to define and analyze the differences between the two most inexplicable creatures on earth. The Ph.D. graduate, Dr. John Gray, brings in examples from his own life and many others to explain the intrinsic personality differences and expectations coming out of it.
The basic psychology of what you expect from others is what you give is brought to our attention and from here, he strives to explain women give men what women need and vice versa. As a result neither of them is satisfied. He suggests that by understanding what the other wants or needs, the individuals will feel more energized and fulfilled as not only are you trying less harder, but you are also receiving what you need and this makes all the difference.
The basic difference is explained as follows: women are very nurturing by nature. They feel that to help someone is to show that they care and love them. By trying to make them perfect, they have completely loved and accepted the other person. Men, on the other hand, take it as an offense if someone tries to change them. In the eyes of their women, they like to stay as their heroes and when that isn’t reflected (when she constantly tries to change him), he feels he is not good enough and he is broken and thus, slides away from the relationship. They also have the philosophy of ‘fix only when broken’, which extends to their relationships as well. Right after courtship and marriage, they feel that they have done enough to settle and ‘fix’ and need to take some time off. On the other hand, with the emotional turmoil and hormones of women, they need to be reassured from time to time about their love and life. But this constant ‘nagging’ is seen as broken relationship by men.
Such are the conflicting opinions of the two genders which hve resulted in many battles – many quite ugly. Although I sympathized with many of the situations in the book, seeing my relatives’ relationships in them, it boils down to the aspect of awareness and respect for each other. At the end of the tunnel, the whole issue about communication pops up. The author himself didn’t have this book to teach him how to deal with issues, yet he took the step of communicating with his better half. Humans are probably the only species that have so many languages to communicate with and yet they are the only ones who feel incomplete and misunderstood in the society.