Parenting when your child is an Adult

Written by Dale and Renee Jacobs, the book is a good read for parents to deal with grown up children. It covers many aspects such as how to talk to teenagers, why they react in a certain way, how do they expect to be treated, how do different reactions lead to different outcomes, money matters, home and residence, staying away from home and so on.
My reason for picking up the book was to figure out what was wrong in my family. I'm not a parent, but an adult living with parents and I'm pretty much either in a foul mood or in a brawl with them day in day out and I started to think whether this friction is because of me or them.
Simple things such as reactions to events and words could shape the future or psychological make up of your teenager or adult. Sticky situations could be taken care of by optimistic behaviour. Things could be so much easier by just letting go. If anything holding tight makes things worse and harder. The best example I can think of is of meals. My mother follows a policy of feeding her children all the time. There is definitely something or other cooking on our stoves to ensure we are never hungry. But our lifestyle doesn't demand so much energy considering we are relatively sedentary. Even though I tell her not to cook so much (which is technically less work for her), she insists on cooking more and insists I eat it as well - which is both annoying - she is more tired and I'm not happy. Perhaps if she were to let go, I would be happy that she is actually reciprocating (in the long run, I would be happier to return to a place where I'm treated as an adult); she would have less work and perhaps, if I were in the wrong, I would learn a lesson in realizing I'm hungry and thereby listen to her, instead of rebelling.
The book was definitely an interesting read and is good for both parents and young adults.